Many Lakewood families find comfort in the array of possibilities that Lakewood offers for those who choose cremation, whether it be a celebration of life or a personal, permanent memorial, or both. Lakewood opened our first crematory in 1908 and we now partner with local funeral homes to do almost 1400 cremations a year. We invite you to read some stories of Lakewood families who have chosen cremation services at Lakewood.
The power of witnessing
Many people are familiar with the custom of shoveling dirt into a grave at a funeral as a way for loved ones to pay their final respects. Lakewood’s Family Services team wants people to know that if they choose cremation, there are many opportunities for connection in the final moments in the presence of their loved one.
A cremation witness service takes place just outside the crematory in a quiet, tastefully appointed room, designed to emphasize tranquility. Those present will see the casket enter the cremation chamber, similar to seeing a casket being lowered. Families can request that their funeral home schedule cremation services and a witnessing at Lakewood.
Lakewood’s Family Services team welcomes each group, providing a calming presence and the expertise to answer any last minute questions. The Family Services team has seen the myriad ways that families honor their loved ones, including incorporating rituals or religious customs into their goodbyes.
Brett Tieman, a member of the Family Services team, remembers one family who took turns wrapping a shroud around their father and then laid flowers in his casket. “I was moved by the family’s healing energy,” says Brett. Some families prefer a more impromptu gathering. Another family with young children allowed each child to say a final word to their mom and then kissed her. “It was moving, how at ease the children felt in her presence. I believe that the family will take comfort in the memory of those last moments.”
Some families arrive without a plan as to how they will honor their loved ones, but simply taking quiet moments to reflect can also be powerful. Brett recalls once bringing out some coloring books and crayons for a group with young children, which gave the adults quiet time to reflect.
Brett often finds that families just want to share stories of the person they loved, so he always makes time to listen. “I wish that more people knew that witnessing a cremation is an option because it is such an overwhelmingly positive experience.” He adds, “Giving families a role can ease the grief a little and empower people in those last difficult moments.”
Learn more about cremation at Lakewood
If you have questions about cremation services, witnessing or memorials at Lakewood, schedule an appointment with our knowledgeable Family Services team by emailing info@lakewoodcemetery.org or calling 612-822-2171.
